It's an Adult Thing!

We spend most of our adulthood working, but a salary shouldn't be the only thing we take home while we earn a living.

Here are some of the biggest life lessons we learned as we navigate our work and career.

Many of the fake news that we consume are generated NOT by trolls but by OUR OWN MINDS. In this episode, we expose the harmful thoughts that sabotage our happiness, and learn how to fact-check the stories in our heads.

Cited materials:

"Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by Dr. David D. Burns

"Cognitive Distortions: When Your Brain Lies to You" (https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/)

Fear-Setting concept by Tim Ferris (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5J6jAC6XxAI)

"Brene Brown: The Call to Courage" (available on Netflix)

UP Dragonboat Team Psych Up Webinar (https://bit.ly/30yS4z8)

Radical Acceptance concept by Marsha Linehan

Extreme Ownership concept by Jocko Willink

In this Halloween special, we recount the most hair-raising, goosebumps-inducing, and mind-melting experiences that we have experienced first-hand.

ADVISORY: Due to our raw and intense reactions to each other's spooky story, this episode contains more expletives than usual. There may also be parts that might distress people of certain faiths. Pls. know that no offense was intended upon retelling these anecdotes.

Rest is a crucial part of staying healthy. It helps our body heal, strengthens our immune system, boosts our creativity, and improves our mental health. Yet, we still take rest for granted and feel guilty when we're not doing anything.

Listen in to hear different ways on how we can all relax, recover, and rest optimally for our physical, mental, and over-all health.

Here's an update on the habits we're trying to build. We reflect on what worked, what didn't, and the adjustments we have to make to get closer to making our desired habits stick for good. 

Being courageous doesn't mean being fearless. It's having the strength to do something despite the fear.

In this episode, we talk about the most courageous things we've done as adults. We're joined by Victor Anastacio, a host, actor, and stand-up comedian who makes a living by courageously putting himself in front an audience and making people laugh.

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Hey, fellow adults! October 11 is International Day of the Girl!

We can celebrate and help vulnerable girls thrive and have better opportunities by joining the GIRLS CAN movement of empowering 1,000 Girls.

Sponsor a girl at worldvision.org.ph today.

Is it possible to stay together while you and your partner are physically apart? How can partners maintain their closeness when distance gets in the way? Hear Kara David and LM Cancio share about their thriving relationship, in spite of being away from each other for long stretches of time.

Does age matter in romantic relationships? We’ll find out as we chat with multi-awarded journalist Kara David and composer-musician LM Cancio. We have them spill out the hesitations, differences, compromises, and surprising advantages that they’ve had as a married couple with a 12-year age gap.

Raising kids is a major responsibility. Parents need all the help they can get to provide the physical, emotional, social, and many other needs of their children.

In this episode, we discuss the joys, challenges, and milestones of parenting with millennial mom Pauline Manus, a mother to twins, a homemaker, and an entrepreneur.

In this episode, we read out letters from our fellow adults who are asking for some advice. Hear out their concerns and our attempt to provide road maps that might help them get thru the adulting hurdles that they are facing.

Disclaimer: This episode was recorded before the most current ECQ was declared.

Creating a great life might sound daunting. But building good habits thru science-based hacks is surely a more doable step towards this goal.

In this episode, we’ll be applying what we’ve been advocating since Episodes 2 and 3. We’re laying out a gameplan to kick off good habits that will nudge us towards becoming better versions of our selves.

Growing up, we learned so many "shoulds" and "must haves" in order to live a "normal" adult life.

But as we became our own adults, we were able to debunk some of these faulty beliefs about adulthood and life in general.

Listen in with an open mind as we dispel these adulting misconceptions with Mish Tan of the Mishconceptions Podcast.

Sometimes the truth can be uncomfortable and difficult to handle, but only when we come to terms with these facts will we be able to truly grow and be free.

Here are some bitter pills about life that we had to swallow so we can become better adults, as well as some tips on how we slowly learned to accept them.

This episode is inspired by a post from Nedra Tawwab, a therapist, boundaries expert, and author: https://www.instagram.com/p/CPBjcssD9XT/?utm_medium=copy_link

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Last few days to register to vote, fellow adults! 'Wag magpahuliiiii!
Click here to begin your registration: https://bit.ly/adultrehistro

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Some references we mentioned in the episode:

• The ONE Thing Book by Gary W. Keller and Jay Papasan

We say it’s “for adults,” yet many, if not most of us are little informed, misled, and confused about sex. So come with us as we dive into a pleasurable conversation with sex therapist and sex educator, Dr. Rica Cruz. Let’s penetrate this taboo topic, expose the myths surrounding it, and take a peek at the intimate sexual concerns, insecurities, and desires of our adulting tribe.

Let's figure out adult life together since it wasn't taught in school. Join us, Nica, Carla, & Azl, as we exchange stories, questions, and sometimes expert advice on adulting, self-development, well-being, and more because IT'S AN ADULT THING!

It’s normal for any romantic relationship to have troubles and challenges. And it doesn’t always have to end in a break up just because you’re going through a rough patch.

We talk about some common relationship problems that aren’t necessarily deal breakers, and how these can still be solved if you and your partner are willing to work it out.


Download Kumu here: podlink.co/kumu-adultthing 

Application for VOTER REGISTRATION: https://bit.ly/adultrehistro

All our beliefs are learned, and as we expand our knowledge and gain more experience, some of our previous beliefs can become obsolete. So to thrive better in life, we need to update our old beliefs, assumptions and convictions that no longer serve us!

Download Kumu here: podlink.co/kumu-adultthing 

During these disruptive times, many of us have been flooded with the loss of loved ones, jobs, our previous norms, and relationships. Yet not many of us know how to stay afloat when hit by these storms.

We sit with our guest psychologist, Ms. Mara Yusingco, as she guides us through the waves of grief that all adults, at some point in our lives, will have to face.

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10:38 = What is grief? |

14:15 = Why do people grieve? |

17:41 = Different kinds of grief |

23:54 = Stages of grief |

30:00 = Healthy ways of grieving |

48:34 = Self-compassion in times of grief |

58:35= Coping mechanisms to watch out for |

1:01:06 = Seeking support w/o stepping on people’s boundaries |

1:03:00 = Giving support to those who are grieving |

1:07:38 = Toxic positivity |

1:10:31 = Ms. Mara’s request to people in grief |

In Touch crisis line numbers (for emergency):

(02) 88937603 | 09178001123 | 09228938944 |

In Touch Community FB page: https://www.facebook.com/InTouchCommunityServices

We’re capping off Women’s Month with a special episode where we share about some of the bad ass women we look up to.

Women can do anything — make history, fight for our rights, tell brave stories, create tech empires, bring social change, spread love, care for the future generation, and even take humanity to outer space. These heroines are breaking barriers, shattering stereotypes and showing the world that we can be great no matter our gender.

Tell us about the inspiring women you idolize on our FB and IG @itsanadultthing !

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Fellow adults, please register now so we can all vote wisely in 2022. Find out how to register here: https://bit.ly/adultrehistro

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We’re having an “Ask Us Anything” episode!
Send us a voice clip or video recording of you asking us a question and we’ll include it on the show.
Excited to hear and see you, guys!

We try to identify the things that matter most to us, and check how we can focus on achieving and protecting what is truly essential.

We talk about:

• Essentialism
• societal standards that keep us from being happy
• how to SAY NO to non-essential things in our lives
• how to SAY YES to based on our values
• how we can create systems to get the right things done

Listen to the ideas and wisdom we got from:

• Greg McKeown, author, “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less”
• Laurie Santos, the Happiness expert
• Tim Ferriss, author, “The 4-Hour Work Week”
  

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We’re having an “Ask Us Anything” episode! Send us a voice clip or video recording of you asking us a question and we’ll include it on the show. Excited to hear and see you, guys!

Aaaaand we’re back!!! In this episode, we open up about our biggest fears and brainstorm on how to avoid or face the things we dread the most.

COVID-19 is deadly. This is the harsh truth. But this doesn’t have to be the case all the time.

Aside from wearing masks and social distancing, there’s a way to protect ourselves from the serious effects of the virus.

We talk to a frontliner/cardiologist about boosting our immune system, avoiding heart disease, steering clear of trans fats, and making COVID-19 less morbid.

For many of us, the most challenging battle we fight every day is not out in the arena but within our own heads. In this episode, Nica, Azl, and Carla share about how they try to tame their own inner dragons and regain power over them.

10:30 - realizing the need to tame our minds

16:00 - the Mental Chatter

18:12 - metacognition

21:21 - treating thoughts as they are—just thoughts

25:00 - our “mental workouts”

42:07 - our “mental diets”

46:46 - our brains’ most vulnerable moments

50:30 - reco resources

55:08 - the changes we’ve been noticing so far

59:19 - the finish line

There are a looot of misconceptions about food, nutrients, and diets, so we decided to consult an expert. 

We talk to nutritionist-dietitian, chef, and fitness coach Fia Batua to clear up the most common diet myths, and to answer our crowdsourced questions.

We discuss fad diets, demonizing carbohydrates, intermittent fasting, the sustainability of a plant-based diet, genes vs. lifestyle, and how we can have a better relationship with our food.

Of the few things we knew about FATS, most turned out to be wrong! In this episode, elite fitness coach / registered nutritionist dietician / culinary chef Ms. Fia Batua clarifies some of the misconceptions and confusions that we had about fats.

We talk about good fats and bad fats (trans fats!), cholesterol, fatty organs, and the controversial ketogenic diet!

This episode is produced with the help of:

Trans Fat Free Philippines https://www.facebook.com/transfatfreephilippines

ImagineLaw https://www.facebook.com/imaginelawPH

Probe Media Foundation Inc. https://www.facebook.com/ProbeMediaFoundation

Some of life’s best teachers are our own mistakes. In this episode, we unearthed some cringe-worthy memories that we’ve previously buried, so that we can share some nuggets of wisdom that came along with the dumb things that did in the past.

07:57 - What makes “stupid?”

09:46 - The rebellious 5-year-old Nica

11:35 - Tech boo-boos

18:10 - Stupid love

37:00 - Dangers in dating

39:30 - Costly mistakes. Literally.

48:10 - Blame it on the alcohol

56:10 - Owning up to our mistakes

Tulad ba namin, your "new normal" includes working or studying from home? Check out this episode as Azl, Carla, and Nica discuss people's biggest concerns when working from home, like time management, work schedules, routines, and functional design! Learn some tried and tested hacks to address them. #WFH

11:03 Pros of WFH

12:38 Time Management

28:14 Workspace & Space Design

34:40 Video Calls & Zoom Meetings

42:46 Slow Internet Connection

47:19 Dealing with isolation

Thinking of getting your own place?
Along with freedom and independence, having your own house also comes with a lot of responsibilities.
To help you out with this major adulting milestone, let’s talk about the things you have to consider before you leave the comfort of your family’s home.

For our triple birthday celebration, we had our very 1st live stream on Facebook, and shared what we wish we could tell to our younger selves. Here's the audio version of our online mañanita!

In this episode, we invited dermatologist Dr. Kathy Reyes to answer questions about skin care practices, usual skin issues and their causes, and ways to manage and prevent them.

Looking for good books to read? Here are some of the most awesome books we've read, both in fiction and non-fiction. May pa-summary at commentary pa! With no spoilers, of course. ;) Enjoy!

As COVID-19 becomes a pandemic, something just as contagious spreads throughout the globe--ANXIETY. In this episode, Carla, Nica, and Azl try to untangle this messy emotion that can overtake our sanity if left unmanaged.